"A new commandment I give to you: Love one another as I have loved you."
And how is that even possible, Lord? To love others as You have loved us?
In this age of intense disagreement, it is so easy to "cancel" those who do not agree with us. We are so easily "offended" by something done or said, even years previously. And then, like the lepers of the New Testament, people are cast out, excluded forever from social acceptance.
Yet, Jesus has told us to "love" one another -- even those on opposite sides of the political and/or social barrier. In his book Long Have I Loved Thee, Walter Burghardt points out that "The Exodus was not simply a liberation from slavery; it was the formation of a new social order -- what Norbert Lohfink called "a contrast society" (p.168).
The Hebrew nation was formed in the desert not only to be in covenant with God, but to be in covenant with one another:
Is not this the fast that I choose: to loose the bonds of injustice, to undo the thongs of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and to break every yoke?
Is it not to share your break with the hungry, and bring the homeless poor into your house; when you see the naked, to cover them, and not to hide yourself from your own flesh? (Is. 58).
Over the centuries, and even today, the Jews are known for having taken the command seriously -- not to hide from those in need, but to extend their hands to the needy among them. For them, to do justice was to worship God. Because Christians do not live in enclaves, it is harder to see in our society whether or not we "love one another" and loosen the bonds of injustice. But there is one place where we can actually see the kind of love Jesus commands --- the Mass, the liturgy. There we come together as "we," not "I":
We stand to one another not as the rich to the poor, the wise to the ignorant, the strong to the needy, the clever to the simple; we stand rather as the poor to the poor, the weak to the weak, the loved to the loved" (Mark Searle, Liturgy and Social Justice, quoted in Burghardt.)
Whenever we attend Mass, there are no political, social, economic, educational, or racial barriers and divisions --- we stand together as "the needy" before God. There, we are truly a "contrast society" to the rest of the world. It is the same society as exists in heaven. What we have in common, what brings us together, is what we have received from God -- His compassion, His love, His mercy, His cleansing of our sins. And this is what He expects us to extend to one another.
The Greeks had four words for love: Eros, Storge, Philia, and Agape. C. S. Lewis' classic Four Loves needs to be on every shelf, because in our culture, "love" means whatever the individual wants it to mean. And that makes it difficult for us to know, much less practice, what Jesus meant by "Love one another." How much control over our emotions do we have in the face of hatred, animosity, political divisions, opinions, etc.?
In his book On Retreat with Thomas Merton, Basil Pennington reflects on three words that sum up what it means to "Love one another" ---- Respect, Acceptance, Appreciation. There are times when I am so upset by the voiced opinions I hear around me that I wonder how on earth I am supposed to "love" the person expressing those opinions. But Pennington makes it "do-able." What is in my control is the ability to respect, accept, and appreciate the other person as someone like myself who stands before God as poor, weak, needing to be loved even in our unfinished state. Our worship, our liturgy, our Mass puts us all in the same position before God, as there we learn what it means to love one another as we have been loved.